The Hadīth of Salamah ibn Sakhr (may Allah be pleased with him) on Zhihār
Good hadithعن سلمة بن صخر رضي الله عنه قال: كُنْتُ امْرَأً أُصِيبُ من النساء ما لا يُصِيبُ غيري، فلما دخل شهر رمضان خِفْتُ أن أصيب من امرأتي شيئا يُتَابَعُ بي حتى أصبح، فَظَاهَرْتُ منها حتى يَنْسَلِخَ شهر رمضان، فَبَيْنَا هي تَخْدُمُنِي ذات ليلة، إذ تَكَشَّفَ لي منها شيء، فلم أَلْبَثْ أن نَزَوْتُ عليها، فلما أصبحت خرجت إلى قومي فأخبرتهم الخبر، وقلت امشوا معي إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، قالوا: لا والله. فانطلقت إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فأخبرته، فقال: «أنت بِذَاكَ يا سلمة؟»، قلت: أنا بذاك يا رسول الله -مرتين- وأنا صابر لأمر الله، فاحكم فيَّ ما أراك الله. قال: «حَرِّرْ رقبة»، قلت: والذي بعثك بالحق ما أملك رقبة غيرها، وضربت صَفْحَةَ رَقَبَتِي، قال: «فصم شهرين متتابعين»، قال: وهل أصبت الذي أصبت إلا من الصيام؟ قال: «فأطعم وَسْقًا من تمر بين ستين مسكينًا»، قلت: والذي بعثك بالحق لقد بِتْنَا وَحْشَيْنِ ما لنا طعام، قال: «فانطلق إلى صاحب صَدَقَةِ بَنِي زُرَيْقٍ فَلْيَدْفَعْهَا إليك، فأطعم ستين مسكينًا وسقًا من تمر وكُلْ أنت وعِيَالُكَ بَقِيَّتَهَا»، فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى قَوْمِي، فقلت: وجدت عندكم الضِّيقَ، وَسُوءَ الرَّأْيِ، ووجدت عند النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم السَّعَةَ، وَحُسْنَ الرَّأْيِ، وَقَدْ أَمَرَنِي -أَوْ أَمَرَ لِي- بِصَدَقَتِكُمْ.
Salamah ibn Sakhr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: I was a man more given to sexual intercourse with women than others. When the month of Ramadan came, I feared lest I would have intercourse with my wife, and this would continue till the morning. So I swore that my wife would be as impermissible for me as my mother till the end of Ramadan. One night, however, when she was serving me, something of her was revealed, prompting me to jump upon her right away. In the morning, I went out to my people and informed them about this matter. I said: "Go along with me to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him)." They said: "No, by Allah." So I went to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and informed him of the matter. He said: "Did you really do it, Salamah?" I said: "I did it twice, O Messenger of Allah, I am content with the judgment of Allah. So take a decision about me as Allah revealed to you." He said: "Free a neck (a slave)." I said: 'By the One Who sent you with truth! I do not possess a neck other than this," striking the surface of my own neck. He said: "Then fast two consecutive months." I said: "Indeed, the very act I committed was because of fasting." He said: "Feed sixty poor people with a Wasq of dates." I said: "By the One Who sent you with truth! We passed the night hungry; there was no food in our house." He said: "Then go to the collector of Zakah of Banu Zurayq, and let him give it to you, and feed sixty poor people with a Wasq of dates, and you and your family eat the remaining dates." I came back to my people and said to them: "I found with you restriction and bad opinion, but I found with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) spaciousness and wise opinion. He has ordered me – or for me – to be given from your Zakah."
Explanation
This Companion, Salamah ibn Sakhr (may Allah be pleased with him) wanted to halt copulation with his wife throughout the month of Ramadan given the intensity of his sexual desire. Therefore, out of fear that he might have intercourse with her, which would continue to the time of the Fajr, he took an oath of Zhihār, making her as impermissible for him as his mother until the end of the month. However, one night, he was allured into having sexual intercourse with her, which he did. Thereafter, he felt fearful of the consequences of his sin. So he requested his people to accompany him to the Messenger (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ask him about the ruling on this issue and beg him for pardon on his behalf, but they refused to go with him. So he went to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) by himself and related this incident to him. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him if he was sure that he had actually done this, and Salamah replied in the affirmative. Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informed him of the ruling of Allah in his case; which is that he should free a slave; and if he cannot afford it, he should fast for two consecutive months; and if he is unable to do so, he should feed sixty poor people. However, Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) informed the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) of his helplessness and poverty, possessing no slave or even food. In response, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) ordered that he should be given dates from the charity of his people so that he could expiate therewith for his oath of Zhihār and take the rest to feed his wife and children.
Source · Narrated by Ibn Majah - Narrated by At-Termedhy - Narrated by Abu Daoud - Narrated by Ahmad - Ad-Daarimi
From the Hadith Encyclopedia (hadeethenc.com).